You and time and the whole shebang
Enjoying life when "midlife" no longer describes where you are on your journey
With constant news updates about the latest crisis, the ups and downs of the economy, the intense pressure to multitask, the realization that some of our dreams won’t come true, and the slow but steady progress of aches and pains as youth recedes into the past, it would be easy to settle into a comfortable cynicism, a grouchy acceptance, or a stubborn resistance to the realities of age.
Here are a few ideas to consider as you begin to find yourself in the demographic that nobody particularly anticipates but that everyone wants to join eventually.
Learn something new. You don’t have to take a test – you don’t even have to be successful. The act of stretching yourself to try a new physical or mental activity in itself contributes to brain health and to self worth. So take up the clarinet, write a book, study a new language, or train for a half-marathon.
Get rid of anything that doesn’t fit anymore. This means more than cleaning out your closets, although that’s not a bad idea. Are there people or activities in your life that are no longer meaningful – that drain rather than replenish your energy? Find a kindly means to step away.
Try something daring. A few years ago, I watched a stunning woman in her ‘80s win a “storytelling slam” by outing the “animal within;” describing how she relishes chewing on bones. It was funny, outrageous, and delightful. Whether it’s wearing a red hat, speaking up on a controversial subject, or skydiving, age can give you the confidence of one with little to lose and much to gain by taking a risk.
Give something back. What have you learned that others would like to know? What can you do better than most people? What have people always admired in you? Find a way to use that knowledge at work, at home, or in your community without looking for a quid pro quo. Mentor others, teach classes, volunteer to provide a service, become the “village elder” that others can turn to for help, whether with fixing their car, giving a speech, or anything you’ve done successfully.
Have fun. If what you’re doing isn’t absolutely essential to your health and well-being (or that of a partner or family member), make sure that it’s fun – which is, in fact, essential to your health and well-being!